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§ Rage towards one person/punish women expressing his rage
§ Often misdirected impulses of hatred toward random victim
§ Sometimes in name of politics or religion, but in general it’s a crusade to hurt women who have hurt him
§ Believes self-importance is most important
Continuing this series about rape prevention--I previously wrote about power reassurance rapists, their MO, and methods of avoidance, and escape. I'm writing about these types in order of danger, from the least violent, the power reassurance type, to the most dangerous--Anger Excitation-Sadist. In this post, I'm going to describe the power assertive type, more dangerous than the power reassurance type of my last post.
Power Assertive (a.k.a. entitlement, exploitative, can be a “date rapist”)
Methods of Avoidance
§ Will tend to terminate the rape if victim resists
§ Most likely of all rapists to be dissuaded if scream, cry, plead, or fight
§ Could be dealing with power assertive rapist starting off with softer approach – do not want to upset that rapist type
§ Start off with nonviolent tactics – crying, pleading, praying aloud – if he becomes verbally abusive, you do not have a power reassurance rapist
§ If you can attack his conscience, or his weak point, the better luck for avoiding the rape
§ Do not attempt to “talk him out of it” – he will interpret that as your enjoying it, like in a relationship – you must use more angry and shocking tactics
§ With this type of rapist, fight; although he will occasionally have a weapon, it is generally an empty threat and he will not want to deal with an overly resistant victim
Rapist Types and Methods of Avoidance
Power reassurance rapists
These are the most common types of rapists on college campuses. When rapes happen on dates, or at frat parties, they are most likely to be committed by this type of rapists. They are not wanting to harm their victim, while they may plan it ahead of time, more likely it is a crime of opportunity. Add to this the lack of good judgment and loss of inhibition that results from drinking lots of alcohol, and there you have the one of the scenarios for on campus rape.
That is only one scenario, though. Other times the attack might be preplanned by the offender. Here is a break-down of the behavior aspects of the power reassurance rapist:
This is a very difficult topic, for many reasons. Some of the things that make it difficult is while it is clear that there is a problem, there does not seem to be consensus on the best ways to solve it. How much of the responsibility falls of the women to protect themselves? How much falls on the campuses to protect them? Adding to the difficulty is the cultural tendency, in both law enforcement and administration, to blame the victim, more than the perpetrator. I understand the reasoning, to a point--they don't want to falsely imprison a person who is innocent, and may be the victim of a vindictive lie--but at the same time, that is a weak straw man argument. Understand another viewpoint, and agreeing with it are mutually exclusive.
A few pointers to avoid getting in this position:
- Statistics say that many rapes are perpetrated by someone the victim knows
- DO NOT ignore your instincts!! Those are survival signals, and you have them for a reason
- Rapists will try to 1. Keep you quiet, and 2. Finish quickly and escape undetected by others in the area. So fight, and keep fighting. Do not give in to any temptation to give up and let it happen. You don't know if you will survive if you give up, so FIGHT. And, scream, scream, and keep screaming. Scream"rape" and "help me"over and over. Fight like you are fighting for your life, because you probably are.
- Carry pepper spray, and practice using it. You can find it at police supply stores. Carry a body tazer, you can find those at police supply stores as well.