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Relationships…listen up girlfriend; relationships are not easy, and they take a lot of work daily from both parties. I am not a relationship expert in the traditional sense of the word, but I’ve survived one or two long term relationships and am able to share the wisdom of my experience.
These tips are not all my own but I've gathered them from several sources to keep my dignity and know when to walk away from a bad situation. When women understand our value, we make empowered decisions about our relationships.
It is not uncommon to hear a man complain about a woman being upset about things that "have nothing to do with her." This leads to countless arguments and strains the relationship. I've observed a fundamental difference in the way many men and women think. To women, everything is related. To men, everything is separate. To him, it has nothing to do with her. To her, it has everything to do with her.
It is a beautiful, magical feeling when you meet the man of your dreams. From the moment that you meet, there is something about him. He makes you feel like you've never felt before. You decide to take a chance on him. Before you know it, he has captured your heart. Your love for him is unconditional. More importantly, you trust and believe in him. A wise and mature man recognizes this and cherishes it. He makes sure that he maintains your love and trust. He doesn't jeopardize your relationship with foolish decisions. An unwise man takes advantage, because he thinks that you aren't going anywhere. This doesn't mean that he doesn't love you and plan to build a future with you. He just doesn't realize the long term damage that he is doing. You may not go anywhere, but your relationship will change drastically.
Everyone has an ex or exes. This is the relationship that didn't last. It doesn't matter who was wrong. Sometimes, no one was wrong. It just wasn't meant to be. In order to truly have an ex, you have to be sure that the relationship is over. It is more than not being together. The anger, resentment and pain is gone as well. You have put it behind you and moved on.
For centuries women have tortured themselves, trying to figure out what guys find attractive. While guys are attracted to different things about women, most of them seem to find unhappiness unattractive. When your countenance is sad and your attitude is negative, it does not matter how beautiful you are. You become unapproachable. They don't know how friendly, warm and loving you really are. All they see is a woman who looks mean, mad or sad. A mean or mad expression gives the impression that you are difficult to get along with. A sad face means that you won't be any fun. Ultimately, everyone wants to be happy in a relationship. Unhappiness is a huge turn off.
The only thing that is more powerful than a woman is the love of a woman. Her strength is not measured in muscle mass, but in her capacity to love and nurture society. She can carry both male and female in her womb. When she falls in love, she carries her man; in her heart, instead of in her womb. Because he is in her heart, she doesn't give up on him when he is wrong. She will tell him and even fight with him, so that she can help him. She understands that he will hurt her feelings, and releases her pain through her tears. She realizes that love is strong enough to heal the pain. So, she continues to love him.
Even though violence and hatred dominate the media and even entertainment, love is still the most powerful force on Earth. In a “life imitating art” society; we see drama, deception and perversion becoming more of a reality, than reality TV. In this we see the magnification of hatred overshadowing the magnificence of love. It is common to hear people say that they are motivated by “haters.” Hate motivates people to hurt, kill and destroy others. Therefore, it is impossible for a hater to motivate you to do anything positive.