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What's wrong with mamma's boys?

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The term "mamma's boy" is often used in a negative way. But, what exactly is a mamma's boy and what is wrong with it? There is nothing wrong with a man who is good to his mother and caters to her. That is actually an endearing quality. However, a mamma's boy is a man who is incapable of functioning independently of his mother.

It is the result of an unnatural and unhealthy mother/son relationship. The mother never teaches the son to be responsible as a man. As a result, she ends up handling things that he should be handling, but can't. This shifts the dynamic of the mother/son relationship. Instead of being a man who helps his mother, because he loves and respects her; he feels indebted to her for picking up his slack. In many cases, it turns into manipulation. As long as the son owes the mother, she can control him.

Mamma's boys typically struggle with relationships with women. They are used to allowing a woman to handle their responsibilities. It is common to see them with a team of women supporting them. They use women as resources for different things. It is almost impossible for them to maintain quality relationships. Quality women will not participate in a team of women.

If the man does try to commit to a serious relationship, there will be interference from the mother. She doesn't mind the team of women; because she knows he doesn't care about any of them. A quality woman is a threat to her and her ability to manipulate her son. It will eventually come down to the mother or the woman. This is an unfair situation for any man. A good mother would not put her son in this situation. She would want him to find love and be happy. When placed in this situation, a mamma's boy is always going to choose his mother. 


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Valante M. Grant is the founder of The byDesign Network. She has built a network that encompasses broadcast media, audio and video production, copy writing and graphic design. Her primary creative focus is customization. Her philosophy is that every human being is one of God’s designer originals. She uses her creativity to design a life that fulfills her purpose and helps others reach their destiny. Valante will share her message of encouragement on her blog. Valante resides in the Chicago metropolitan area. Her inspiration is her daughter, Vanyce.


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