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Unhappiness is Unattractive

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For centuries women have tortured themselves, trying to figure out what guys find attractive. While guys are attracted to different things about women, most of them seem to find unhappiness unattractive. When your countenance is sad and your attitude is negative, it does not matter how beautiful you are. You become unapproachable. They don't know how friendly, warm and loving you really are. All they see is a woman who looks mean, mad or sad. A mean or mad expression gives the impression that you are difficult to get along with. A sad face means that you won't be any fun. Ultimately, everyone wants to be happy in a relationship. Unhappiness is a huge turn off.

Unhappiness can even impact your physical appearance. Excessive crying makes your eyes red and puffy. When you are unhappy, you tend to put less effort into grooming yourself. Looking bad makes you feel even worse. This is what guys see when they see you. In most cases, they will stay away. There are some guys who will take advantage of your vulnerability. That is even worse. This doesn't just apply to men. No one wants to be around someone who brings them down. Even your friends will pull away if you constantly mope around.

The best thing that you can do is get up and get yourself together. You will feel better and look better. Surround yourself with good friends to lift your spirits. Go out and meet new people. Do whatever it takes to be happy!

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Valante M. Grant is the founder of The byDesign Network. She has built a network that encompasses broadcast media, audio and video production, copy writing and graphic design. Her primary creative focus is customization. Her philosophy is that every human being is one of God’s designer originals. She uses her creativity to design a life that fulfills her purpose and helps others reach their destiny. Valante will share her message of encouragement on her blog. Valante resides in the Chicago metropolitan area. Her inspiration is her daughter, Vanyce.


  • Fit and Healthy You!
    Fit and Healthy You! Tuesday, 29 November 2016

    Sometimes women, or anyone for that matter, are unhappy without understanding why. The first step in fixing the problem is identifying the reasons for the unhappiness. If they are unsaved, then the solution, first and foremost, is that they need Jesus. Once the underlying problems have been solved, then they can focus on externals, like fixing themselves up. Otherwise they are just painting a weak, broken fence.

  • Fit and Healthy You!
    Fit and Healthy You! Tuesday, 29 November 2016

    I had an additional thought...a person's view of themselves, their feelings of self-worth, are tied to how they think of God, and how they think God feels about them. If they don't know God, and Christ, they are going to have a dim view of themselves, deep inside. They may not present it to the world..but in their hearts, the light within them is utter darkness, just as the bible says.

    Thank you, Valente, for all your posts. I look forward to reading them--you inspire me, and you always get me thinking!

  • Fit and Healthy You!
    Fit and Healthy You! Tuesday, 29 November 2016

    Valante--I apologize for misspelling your name.

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